Sexual relationship is one of the foremost relationships that govern the equation between a man and a woman.
The relationship involves, the male entering the female in the act of coition.
These are vividly described in the Kama Sutra by Vatsyayna.
The act however per se involves the male entering the female, followed by vigorous movements, that lead to ejaculation of mans life giving sperms into the woman's body.
However in case the male ejaculates his sperms, before his partner is ready or before the act is completed it is called premature ejaculation.
In other words this involves a lack of control of the man over the sensations on his penis, which leads to this ejaculation.
There is no meter to measure the time period of premature ejaculation, but suffice it to say, that it is ejaculation before the act is fully consummated.
This malady is in real terms a disorder and is quite common.
In fact in men this disorder may affect nearly 50% of the populace.
Though it is a common disorder, yet its repercussions can be disastrous in a male female relationship.
Hence, it is incumbent on the man to take steps to control this disorder.
Firstly, a man suffering from premature ejaculation needs to get into a relaxed state of mind.
The fact that you had earlier failed, is likely to prey on the lovers mind.
It is important to get this feeling of your mind.
I will recommend reciting a prayer and a glass of wine to calm you.
The important thing is to be calm and serene.
Approach the female in this frame of mind.
In addition create the mood for the act as envisaged in Tantra theory of Hinduism.
It will be a good idea to play some hymns and psalms softly as well as burning of incense sticks.
The act should be as per the tantra theory.
Be slow and raise your partner's desire by application of the mouth, tongue and lips.
In case you feel a rush in your penis, immediately slow down and if need be stop all movements.
Think of god and recite the prayers.
Premature ejaculation demands control and the male can try and prolong the act as per tantra theory.
Do not think of orgasm and as an when you feel matters getting out of hand, stop, rest and pray.
This malady is not difficult to control with tantra theory.
The important point is to be relaxed and free of tension or any guilt complex.
In case you follow the tantra, there is a good chance that premature ejaculation will slowly go away as the belief in your self increases.