Every relationship has to have dialog otherwise it dies.
There are good times to talk about things and bad times...
knowing when is a skill to be mastered if you expect great things for your relationship.
There are also easy subjects to talk about and hard subjects to talk about.
And again, timing is everything.
Keep your relationship growing and getting stronger by learning the skills you need to keep communication channels open and comfortable.
Tip number one: most problems are solved by the talker...
if you are the silent partner, you are giving the power over to your partner.
Think heavy on this - couples do much better when there is a give and take during conversations, staying quiet, usually means YOU DON'T CARE.
> Open up to your partner during times not devoted to problem solving or about issues needing both of you to come to completion of the problem or issue.
Express how you feel and why.
> Recall how you were in past relationships and how you reacted to your partner, how were problems solved in your family circle.
Some of those issues can follow you for life or at least until you decide to deal with them.
> If your silence is a result of your growing-up years, perhaps you were criticized when you voiced your opinion or asked questions for clarification or you were told that children were to be seen and not heard and you never worked through that and you still keep your mouth shut.
> Maybe you aren't feeling confident and self-assured about what you have to say or how you feel about something.
You might have to just get in there and say it anyway, start small and build from there.
> Couples often have needs and desires, of an intimate nature, that aren't being met.
These matters are best brought up at the time of the endeavor and not while your on your way to dinner with friends or your waiting in line at the super market.
Take risks when you are with your partner.
Start a conversation about something you know and feel very good about and express your feelings and thoughts.
Often it just takes practice, ask your partner to be kind and patient with you until you get your fears worked through.
Your relationship will be healthy and happy after you have identified with and dealt with your fears.
Let your partner know that you do care about your relationship and that you desire to be part of how it matures.
Respond with kindness to something your partner says, "It's so great that happened," or "I understand your anger about that," and "I love you for feeling that way.
" "Never act until you have clearly answered the question: What happens if I do nothing?" Robert Brault