In the struggle for happiness is often a major contender own character, habits , or delusion. Sometimes in the fight for the welfare of people just forget about their main goal - to be happy, and his persistence unnecessary driving itself into a corner, losing not only the strength but also the joy of such a victory.
We should not think that the loss of at some stage could collapse your life and you will not be able to get it tomorrow. The fear of losing makes you tense and do what you do not like it, but is it - happiness?
Think about that hated job that brings you a lot of money is unlikely to make you happy. Living with the software, but unloved man - too. Fighting for the happiness you will eventually lose if not clearly define the criteria of happiness, which are really worth the effort. Fulfilling his dream of becoming rich and devoting time only working, you lose precious time that could fill the moments of happiness do - communicating with family and loved ones - parents, children, loved one. These moments will not be able to return - parents can leave children grow.
Status toys , chasing that people spend their lives, real happiness you will not do. Do not change your normal life and happiness for the good ghost. You can not cheat your soul.
But if you understand what you will be happy - develop in themselves the qualities of perseverance and determination, bring them in yourself and hold hands with the failures. Do not give up at the first difficulty and do not give up your dreams . Do not expect that someone will execute it for you, step by step go to your goal. You will see how strong incentive is any, even a small victory. Builds character in the fight, but Be able to retreat to relax , regroup and continue to fight for what you really expensive.
Incidentally, the last decade of the question of happiness quite seriously interested in psychological science. It seems doubtful that such a broad concept can be studied in depth, but fortunately there are specialists. In addition, they are working hard to create a specific, clear guidance how to be happy. There are tests, exercises and activities that are simple and affordable for everyone. All those engaged in positive psychology, the main idea of ??which is approximately as follows: instead of struggling with the problems and correct deficiencies, you need to focus on the good and improve their qualities.
One of the founders of positive psychology, Professor Martin Seligman elaborates the concept of happiness, preferring that the word the term "welfare." He created a team that is working on a set of programs for all areas of life - from school to the Army, aimed at redirecting people to a positive attitude and improving well-being.
The story of how it all began and how it works, he describes in his book, "The Path to Prosperity: A new understanding of happiness and prosperity." Seligman argues that those who come in contact with the positive psychology can not help but appreciate its positive influence. Specific exercises described in the book is simple and logical: the end of the day remember the good times, do not forget to thank the people who made you feel good, every comment compensate praise. These tips are not difficult to test in practice. They may be the first step for those who believe that happiness in life is possible, and for those who are in doubt.
Scientists will long fight over the complex issues of the eternal theme, but you can send your boat of life to flourish today.