It hurts to see your ex-boyfriend with another girl. It can make you angry, sad and extremely jealous to see someone who you think belongs with you holding hands, kissing and generally being intimate with someone else. If you don't think that the book is closed on you and the man in question, you could want to try a few steps to win him back and rekindle your once-strong relationship.

Dress up. Put your hair up the way he always liked. Wear the dress that made him unable to keep his hands off of you. Let him know that your appearance still matters to you because it matters to him.

Ask the ex-boyfriend if he'd like to get together for a casual date sometime. This should be something simple, like getting a glass or two or taking dogs for a walk together. Even a group date is a good option, since there won't become a lot of pressure on him. Don't expect the plans to be too committal -- treat the case as if he were a friend.

If you are normally sweet and loving, remain that way. You may well have every emotion filling your body, anger sadness and hurt and you are very desperate to win him back, and without a second thought you scream and threaten him. This will not help get him back. Screaming at him will push him away and make it easier for him to get on with his life. Contemplate this for a moment. If you were in shoes and someone was being mean, you would think you made the right choice by leaving. However, if someone is being sweet and loving, it is harder to leave.

Discuss the issues. This step may come sooner or it may possibly come right about now. However, you thought she was great enough to go to the trouble of getting her back so this one is important. First, no matter what caused your breakup, you need to talk about it if you desire to have more than just a date with her. Stay away from recriminations and blame. Explain your point in a non accusatory fashion. Try as a substitute to explain what happened, how it made you feel and don't to call names. Explain exactly what you would like to do to change the case. Ask her about her feelings, and what she would like to do to change the situation. Above all, don't get pulled into another argument. Remember how badly the last argument ended? If you can actually work out the problem that caused the breakup you can go forward with a lot more security in most instances.

Ignore your ex or stay away. This may sound cruel, but exactly what you are doing is putting space between the two of you. That space will provide time for growth and change to occur on both sides; once this has happened, you possibly should start to put the pieces of your relationship back together.

Find Strength and Positivity

Remain strong and positive. Women tend to be attracted to strength and certainty. If this was true when you met for the first time, it will be true when you are hoping to lure her back. A positive mindset is also alluring, and is important to your own self image. The pain of an emotional breakup is difficult to deal with, but showing her that you are strong and independent is a necessary part of rekindling the attraction that once felt for you.

If you broke up because of your temper, consider seeking help. Be honest with her and let her know that you are seeking help and would like to try again. If she accused you of cheating and you never confirmed or denied it, be honest and upfront. Tell her the truth and, hopefully, you possibly can begin a brand new, honest, relationship with her.

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Don't email them: Email is the silent enemy during this period of no communication. It is way too easy to draft a quick email and send it off without thinking about the overall consequences of your forever printed words.

Remember To Stay Active!

The time just after the break up is hard, as everyone knows, but not leading a fulfilling life of your own is one of the worst things you could do right now.

If you could convince your ex that your life is still amazing - even without them in it - they will start to feel that familiar burn of jealousy. They will start to wonder what you've got going on in your life that is making you so joyful, and what they're missing out on.

When that happens make sure that you do not slip back into old habits. That includes never acting in the way that triggered the breakup and never being needy. Being needy is the number 1 reason why breakups occur so recall that when you seek to get back with your ex.

Use Anything you Know To Your Advantage.

Since you two were both together once, you could use whatever you know about your ex to your advantage.

Be it your ex's favourite colour, food, past time or what he/she likes in you, you can do those things again to show your ex that you still value his/her opinions and care enough about what he/she likes. That helps to increases your chances with your ex.

You have just read the four tips on getting an ex back. Recall, by first increasing the odds of your ex coming back to you, you'll have a much easier time having your ex back to your side. So recall to use these tips on getting an ex back to help you.