If you have recently gone through a breakup then you know how devastating it can be to you emotionally. I remember my first break up. I was not be able to eat or sleep. I couldn't listen to the radio because almost every song made me want to start crying all over again. My emotions were on a rollercoaster. One moment I would be angry, the next moment I would be depressed. It was so bad that even my friends stopped coming around. This went on for a few months before I was able to pull myself out of pit of self pity and despair. If you are reading this, chances are you are experiencing the same things that I did. You are probably searching for good information on how to get your ex back. Keep reading to uncover a few tips that can help you get your ex back and have a strong, loving relationship.

The first thing you need to do is give your ex some space. Do not call him or her every day. Do not €accidentally' show up at his favorite hangouts. Whatever you do, don't beg him or her to take you back. If you do these things, you will just drive him further away. I made the mistake of following my ex around and begging him to take me back. He finally just refused to talk to me.

The best thing you can do is to calmly agree to the breakup, In fact, sit down and write him or her a letter that says you totally agree with the breakup. Tell him or her that you think it is a good idea. Then give your ex all the room he or she needs. So while you are giving your ex some space, it is time to work on yourself.

Treat yourself to something that you have always wanted. Take a trip. Get a makeover. Start going out with friends and having a good time. Be yourself and have fun. If your ex happens to show up at the same place that you are, just smile, say hi and continue to have fun with your friends. Pretend that he or she is just another person at the party. Never let him or her see you hurting. Trying to make your ex feel sorry for you will not bring him back.

Another thing to remember if you want to get your ex back is do not apologize for every little thing that has happened in your relationship. If you did something horrible, you can apologize for that and then move the conversation along. Being overly apologetic will do nothing but make you look desperate and pathetic.

If you really want to get back with your ex, you should just be yourself. Don't make the mistake of thinking that you need to change to be something that your ex would want. There was something about you that first attracted your ex to you. That is the person he or she feel in love with.

There are a lot of great books that you can read that will give you more good advice on how to get back with your ex. I wish I would have read some of them while I was dating. It would have saved me from a lot of heartache.

Just remember, getting back with your ex may take some time. It most certainly will take some control on your part. You have got to refrain from making the same mistakes that I did. Learn the right way to get your ex back and you can have a stronger and more loving relationship than you had before.