If you need to lose some weight and are finding it hard to do this then you may find that you experience more problems than just worries about losing those extra pounds.
Often our very sense of self confidence is based on the way we look.
If we don't feel that we look right then we may well end up thinking that we aren't attractive to the opposite sex.
If you are on the heavy side then you may well find that your social life suffers on all fronts.
A lot of people who struggle with their weight stop going out as much to meet their friends, never mind potential partners.
The common social perception is that it is unacceptable to be fat...
thin is the way we should be.
So, if you're carrying extra pounds your social life may stutter or could even grind to a complete halt.
Being this unhappy is not an ideal situation to be in as you can well imagine.
It also won't help you address the underlying issue here...
your weight.
Starting a diet if you're in the right frame of mind can be hard enough.
Trying to start one and see it through until you lose the weight you need to lose can be downright impossible if you don't feel good about yourself.
In this kind of situation some of us will simply give up and won't even try to lose any weight.
We'll convince ourselves that we aren't worth the bother.
After all, we're already convinced that we've made ourselves unattractive to new partners (or to our existing ones) and it's an easy step to take this lack of confidence one stage further and to assume that there's no point trying to lose weight because, once again, we'll fail.
Let's face it, most of us don't feel good about ourselves if we're carrying too much weight.
We're trained to see that carrying excess weight is a sign of weakness and a sign that we have no willpower.
So, it's not really any surprise at all that most people in this situation cannot motivate themselves to act and to try and lose weight over time.
So what can we do? The fact is that most diets that will see you build muscle and lose fat and give you permanent results need you to be positive about your abilities to stick with the diet.
If you aren't it is unlikely that you'll get farther than the first couple of weeks.
And, if you fail then you'll simply feel even worse about yourself and may turn to comfort eating which...
once again...
will make things even worse.
What you need to look for is a diet that will show you steady progress from day one, allowing you to rebuild your confidence as you go along.
It will take time, but it can be done, step by step.