People have arguments. It's a fact of life. Unfortunately, when we're fuming and fussing with a partner, we are in a perfect position to cross some boundaries into forbidden territory. The loss of control often leads us to say things we could regret for a terribly long time. Of course, it's normal to be upset and to vent from time to time. However, arguments lose their worth if they devolve into a nasty verbal attack on your significant other.

Hopefully, with this article as a guide, you will learn a few things that should be avoided when you feel the temperature rising - and not in a good way - between you and your significant other. Hotheadedness can lead you to say things that might cause incredible damage to your relationship; or at the very least, start those spidery cracks that can make even a concrete-solid relationship start to crumble. The significant factor here is respect - you deserve it and so does your partner.

Arguing in public is a big mistake many couples make on a regular basis. Couples have a disagreement about a little occurrence and an argument erupts out of nowhere and with a ferocity which makes heads turn. Usually this is a perfect opportunity for one of the two to make a snide remark while everyone is within earshot. This, in turn, fuels the fire and results into an even larger dispute.

It doesn't matter if those witnessing this display are friends, family members, or complete strangers; the argument takes on a whole new aspect. Neither of the pair wants to be made a fool in front of others so the argument becomes a contest of wills and one-upmanship. The argument loses it's effectiveness - that is, to vent and heal - and just becomes an embarrassing spectacle for all involved, the onlookers and especially the couple.

Another sure way to get a bad reaction from your partner is to ask their opinion on a topic and how they might deal with the situation only to ignore their advice and do the opposite. When your partner finds out, and they always find out in the end, they will not be happy. Rightly so, this is a slap slap in the face of your partner and a break in trust.

You better have a pretty good explanation as to why you took such contrary action. Don't even ask for assistance if you're going to react in a way just to be wicked. After all, acting in this way is insulting and hurtful; certainly not the way to grow a trusting and healthy relationship. You've basically said that you think little of your partner's perspective on life.

Arguments are arguments and every couple has their way of dealing with and reconciling differences that arise, however there are a couple of approaches which should be avoided entirely. One is starting an argument in public or in front of family members. Wait for a time in which you are alone with your partner to bring the subject up. Chances are they already know that the discussion, or argument, will be coming. There is no point in making the issue everyone's problem to deal with or allowing a group of people into your personal lives.

Another thing you will want to consider is if you are going to ask your partner's opinion on a matter, make sure that you consider carefully what they offer. Don't ask what they are thinking, pay them lip service, and then turn around and do the opposite of what they advised. This is a recipe for disaster and will not turn out well for you and your relationship.