How to attract a man? Every woman has an opinion on this, we have all discussed attracting the opposite sex at length. Every month the stores are full of women's magazines telling you exactly how you attract a man, how you dress to get a man,what you need to say,how to flirt and the list of advice goes on and on.

However, all of these ideas and tips on how to attract a man are based on a fantasy, a dream of the ideal man and the perfect romance. Because in reality you cannot make a man be attracted to you.

"Are you attracted to every man you see?"

Obviously as women we all have likes and dislikes in a potential partner, and so do men. If you are not his type;your not his type and you cannot change that, don't even try!

However, what you can do is make yourself a more attractive proposition as a girlfriend, then you are more likely to attract the attention of the right man for you.

Have you ever noticed that certain types of women seem to be man magnets, these women are not necessarily the prettiest, or the slimmest, so what qualities do these women have?

These attractive women are inevitably self-confident. They are happy in themselves and with their life, and that confidence just glows inside them and is very attractive. A woman who is sure of her own abilities and her worth. I'm not talking about arrogance, but a warmth that comes from being comfortable in your own skin.

So the first step to take to attract a good man into your life, is to spend some time discovering what makes you happy in this world, and the answer to that question shouldn't be a man! Invest sometime in yourself, learn what actually makes you happy,not what makes your parents, employer or even your last boyfriend happy, but what gives you joy. Then take some time to actually do those things that make you happy, become active in your own pursuit of happiness.

Don't waste your time sitting at home watching depressing television shows that will drag your spirit down,and don't bring your energy down moaning to your friends about how you don't meet nice men. Get out and take action.

Remember, that a woman who has a life of her own, friends and hobbies, social engagements that keep her busy, is attractive and a challenge to a man. What your demonstrating is that you have value to others, people like you and want to spend time with you. He'll want some of that, and if he is attracted to you he will actually compete to get your attention.

The most important aspect of "how to attract a man", isn't the clothes you wear, or even how you flirt, it's you. Work on you as an individual, and know that having a man in your life is not the most important thing, but showing that your happy to play, is the secret to attracting your dream man.