Its not uncommon to hear boy-meets-girl stories where the characters, starting out as friends, start dating, and whose budding relationship seem to hold good promise until the boy starts to drift away. The boy was gone even before the relationship could blossom. Why does this happen time and time again?

Often, a girl falls in love too soon with some nice guy in her life. Everything might be going well for a while between the two of them, and so she tends to have raised hopes that there could really be something special in their friendly relationship. If the guy happens to send conflicting signals, the girl begins to question the real score in their relationship and make the mistake of revealing her deepest feelings hoping that her feelings of affection would be returned. The sad truth is its not likely to happen. Men dont work that way.

For a girl to sum up enough courage and lay out all her cards at once means that shes likely to have only true feelings for the guy. Considering a girls emotional vulnerability, its not a wise move. Of course, anybody must mean well in being honest but it might do more harm than good. Theres really nothing wrong with trying to win someone, but a girl must know where she really stands. If shes seen as a friend, nothing she says is likely to change the guys mind. Attraction cannot be forced. The girl must not try too hard and drive the guy into a corner. Wittingly, hell push past the girl and run off!

Before a girl may become blinded by the illusion of winning some guys heart and does things to jeopardize her chances, it pays to take these following lessons by heart:

You cant hurry romance. Girls shouldnt move mindlessly into a relationship if they dont want to scare the guys away. Its not because the girl is disliked. It could be that the guy has every good intention to preserve the friendship, and in his judgment, moving on to the next level would jeopardize whatever good relationship already exists between the girl and him.

The speed at which a guy and a girl develop intimacy vary. Feelings for each other might be mutual, but it doesnt mean theyre of the same emotional wavelength. Guys are particularly slower to catch up with girls in this aspect. If they rush into it girls have to be all the more careful. They could be making the mistake of choosing a lousy partner.

Just like any plant, a relationship has to grow strong, deep roots. Surely that doesnt happen overnight. Nurturing and cultivating a relationship a relationship that is based upon deep friendship takes time. It will have to grow naturally.

There are no shortcuts in life even in relationships. Marvel in the opportunities of friendships. Sooner or later, a romantic dream will unravel. By the time the guy makes his first move, its really worth the long wait.