Distance is one of the reasons why "some" relationships don't last.
But still, a lot of them survive and live happily ever after.
Well, sort of.
This is where we could measure up to how much the couple loves each other, how they are true to the said commitment that they promised each other, and the enormous amount of sacrifices that has to be made for the relationship to work.
Thanks to technology, it is easier now because of the internet, cellular phones, and other hi-tech devices that make you feel like your partner is just beside you.
Unlike before, the only means of communication would be through snail mail.
Just thinking of it makes me feel frustrated.
There are so many couples who live in one roof, work at the same company, live in one city, and yet have a hard time trying to make their relationship work.
How come those who live gazillions of miles away from each other can make ends meet and still continue a harmonious relationship for years and years? This is one of the questions we will answer as you read along.
Reasons include: a hefty amount of love, a well-thought-of-sobriety for the commitment itself, communal respect, absolute trust and God-centered.
"A HEFTY AMOUNT OF LOVE": Love itself is the primary reason why you agreed to continue the relationship even if it requires the absence of your partner.
Even greater sacrifices are yet to be done therefore, the persons involved should prepare themselves, mentally and emotionally because there is no certainty that love would not fade especially when the sense of togetherness have been felt for years and then suddenly, absence.
There are just so many ways for that love to still be nourished.
Communication is one of them.
Call, email, chat, etc.
it's up to you.
Effort is also a big yes to this.
"A WELL-THOUGHT-OF-SOBRIETY FOR THE COMMITMENT ITSELF": Once the partner is away, the feeling of loneliness arises.
Now is the time to go out with friends.
Reunite with old buddies to cover up for the loneliness that you feel inside.
Spend time with your family and make yourself useful.
Remember, you are committed and you promised your partner that you will continue your relationship, therefore avoid anything that would jeopardize it.
Always put in mind that you are committed to the one you love and you wouldn't want to hurt them, as an adult, you should know your limitations.
"COMMUNAL RESPECT": Respect is needed in everything, especially in relationships.
Since you both respect each other, learn the fact that your partner who went away may have different influences once they are in a different country.
The acquired knowledge, influences, points of view, everything might change.
You have to be ready with the actual outcome of the person that you once knew.
Every person is dynamic so, don't be upset if they change.
Respect them still for who they have become.
"ABSOLUTE TRUST": Trust is hard to earn as the saying goes.
Jealousy should be set aside because if you let jealousy run over your mind, you're in a whirlwind of arguments that would lead to a bigger fight.
Trust you partner.
Believe in what they say.
If you really have a bond, you will feel that they are sincere no matter how far you are from each other.
Trusting is hard to do but as long as you free yourself from the negative thoughts that they might be cheating on you or hiding something from you, everything will be in its rightful place.
"GOD-CENTERED": As I have mentioned with trust, everything will be in its rightful place, when you make God the center of your relationship.
God will be the one to reveal whatever is in store for you in HIS perfect timing.
Take every day one day at a time.
Always ask for guidance and pray for each other at all times.
Keeping a relationship is really hard work.
If others could maintain it even in greater distances then so can you.
Love and trust should be included with maturity and an open mind to keep it growing.
Nourish what has been started and make it work and never give up.
All hardships have its rewards in the end.