When a break up happens, be it a marriage for many years, or in a relationship for just months, there are certain Dos and Don'ts on how to get an ex back. When this happens, the first and foremost to remember is NOT to make things worse and push your ex further into oblivion. Before thinking of ways how to get an ex back, the following are considered desperate acts and thus the worst things to avoid:

1) Repeated calling, texting, flooding of emails - doing so is like scratching a wound, These will have no bearing on your hopes to get your ex back and will be regarded as irritants. Doing these might push your ex to block your calls or emails, and just delete your texts, thus pushing your chances of reaching out to your ex and building a wall that blocks the communication channels.

2) Stalking - showing up where you are unwanted by your ex can get you into further trouble not only with ex but also with the law.

3) Talking to ex's family and friends - this will put your ex into a possibly embarrassing situation and will push your chances further away.

4) Calling your ex's boss or employer - this is really a deal breaker. Calling your ex's boss or office is a big NO because not only are you subjecting your ex to an embarrassing situation by washing your dirty linen in public (your ex's place of work), but also put your ex's means of living at potential risk - a very, very hateful act.

5) Talking to your ex's new partner - When your ex is seeing someone else, talking to that new partner will not do an ounce of good in getting your ex back, because it will only draw the two of them closer as you make your ex hate you more.

The bottom line here is do not PANIC, do not appear desperate. The above behaviors are stooping low and are perceived as total turn-offs. Always keep in mind to maintain calm and composure, and exhibit a certain degree of self-respect, dignity and confidence. Reacting impulsively might cause you to think, act and speak words which you more often than not will regret later on. There are ways and tips on how to get an ex back and this must not be just done haphazardly and instead planned strategically.