If life is like a box of chocolate, online dating is like a jungle filled with sly foxes, two-headed snakes and wild predators. You never know what you are going to get. For this very reason, women are especially cautious and selective about who they mingle with online, let alone allowing themselves to have expectations about finding decent men on the internet.
If you want to bypass their armor and meet them for real dates that can blossom into relationships, there are a few pointers that you have to follow.
Tips #1: Call her by her name.
Calling women by affectionate names like Honey or Babe may seem like a cool thing to men but for for for the women, this is a big turn-off. For them, the stranger that you are are either looking to 'get lucky', treating women with the same respect as some desirable objects (yes, it's that serious) or a jerk who thinks he's a casanova. Either way, it's a major red flag since she don't know who you are and you definitely do not 'own' her. Ever heard of 'I'm not your honey"? Now you understand what it means.
The best bet is to address her by her name if she did tell you, or her nickname if she didn't. It's a great way to be friendly without overdoing it. The rule is if you don't even respect her enough to use her name, you probably don't deserve a reply to your message.
Tips #2: Do not make sexual hints or remarks about her body.
They say flattery will make a women melt, but making uncalled for comments about her body is disastrous, even when they are good comments. If anything, how good her body is is really none of your business. Apart from her eyes, everything you say about her body will wipe off any kind of relationship you've built with her before as she go "Aha! So that's what you're looking for. I knew it!"
You could be banned for making those remarks is she were to make a report to the site administrator. If this is your style of picking up women, they'll be appreciated in adult dating sites, although more often than not, you may have to pay those women to meet up. It all depends on what sort of women you want to meet. If you are serious about meeting someone special for a relationship, be a nice member on regular dating site and be tactful.
Tips #3: Have a genuine profile.
There's a rule about profiles, that is it is better not to disclose undesirable information than to lie about it. If you are not comfortable about some questions about yourself, choose not to answer them until you know her better. Making up lies will only makes things worst if they you got found out. She may not mind that you are shorter than her but by lying, you put your integrity on the table and this may leave a bad impression on her.
You want someone who wants you for you, not for the lies and stories that you cook up. The same goes to you. Wouldn't you hate it if a girl were to disappoint you with fake details about herself?
Tips #4: Use a recent picture.
Never use a picture back in time when you are still slim / have lots of hair / young. Remember, you want to come across as genuine and sincere, so use use recent pictures that highlight your good features in various scenes. It should be ideally a combination of photos - one close up that show your face clearly, a waist level shot if you want to show off your body or pictures of you going about your colorful life such as mountain climbing, traveling or hanging out with friends. Lastly don't forget to smile!
If you have good reasons not to publicly place your face shot, find an alternative to send it along your messages to people that you contact. Ideally, she should not have to ask for this.
Tips #5: Ask the right questions.
You will find that women ask you questions about yourself in their messages. While many men will just answer them without much thought and without asking them back, women interprete it as lack of chemistry or interest on your part.
Knowing what types of questions to ask is also crucial to give her an impression of your communication ability, compatibility and a sense of bonding. After all, a woman need to feel that her feelings and thoughts are understood by a man before she decides that he is someone she wants to date. Keep questions as general as possible in the beginning so it don't seem that you are trying to kill her privacy. Another challenge for men when it comes to communicating with women is the fact that they are too fact-oriented when women are need to talk about feelings and experiences. Master this and you will have no trouble picking women online.