We all have times when we feel totally misunderstood in a particular situation and feel justified to experience our negative attitudes towards ourselves and others.
Most of the time we feel enraged when we feel betrayed or hurt by someone who shouldn't have hurt us.
These feelings are strong because they undermine us as persons and we feel especially uprooted and vulnerable.
Such negative feelings sometimes turn into self-pity parties that damage our ego and self-esteem even more than if we decide to handle them differently.
No matter how justified these emotions seem to be, your system is really beat up and bruised when you give in to these feelings of hurt, anger, and resentment.
Sometimes, these negative emotions can even cause your emotional system to 'crash'.
After thinking all of those self-defeating thoughts and experiencing those emotions, you may feel debilitated, drained, depressed, and tired.
So, how can you not give in to those negative emotions, even if they are warranted? Here are a few tips to follow in order to alleviate some of these negative feelings and emotions in future.
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When you experience negative emotions, try not to succumb to them.
Instead, try to do something that makes you feel good and try to forget how you are feeling for a while.
2.
Take the time to quiet down, cool off, and neutralize your negative feelings and experiences as much as possible.
3.
Put the experience in perspective as much as possible.
Once the situation occurs, the only thing that you could change is your reaction to it.
It is important that one situation doesn't destroy you completely.
4.
Try not to be as affected by such a situation in the future.
Avoid kids who enjoy to put you down and cause you continuous distress especially if it is the same kids over and over again.
5.
Decide whether this negative situation is really worth all of this time and energy.
Is it helping you to feel so bad about it? Most times when we feel bad, we feel a lot worse than if we made a decision to move on and to try and not to put ourselves in a similar situation in future.
So, the next time you get hurt, try to not to get too depressed about it.
Instead, try and not to take these situations as seriously.
You may even be an example to others as to how to act when they are hurt and betrayed.