In the time directly following a breakup, things can be pretty hard. Things are spinning so fast you can't tell up from down, and all you know is that you want him back. There are ways to make this a lot simpler to achieve, and one of them is actually pretty easy.

The reason most people don't do this straight away is because most don't realize how beneficial it can be...it seems counter-intuitive, like it'd bring the opposite results of what you want. Oddly enough, it's really quite effective of a strategy to cut off contact with your ex completely...usually for a term of about a month.

It usually doesn't make your ex come rushing back to you on his own, but it's a great way to start on the right track. Going into your breakup this way is a strong start that accomplishes a lot of good things that'll help considerably when you actively pursue a relationship with him again, including:

--Damage control for an emotional time when a lot of nasty things can be said...cuts down on anger and resentment.

--Gets you out of each others' faces, allows for a cool-down period where emotion settles and clear thinking can start.

--Forces your ex to deal with you not being there. Often the impact of such a thing isn't fully realized when the breakup hits.

--Gives you time to experience life without your ex, and discover if you even need him back to be happy.

--Lets you have time to formulate a plan for how to get him back, so that you're not just 'winging it' with likely poor results.

During this time of no contact, you have to be completely faithful to that idea. You can NOT contact your ex, doing so will upset everything you're trying to do. This means no text messages, no phone calls, no emails, no waiting around his favorite hangouts...unless you two are thrown together by circumstances you can't prevent (work, class), you shouldn't even exist to one another.

This will help you immeasurably in organizing how to go about getting him back, as well as ramp up your chance of success all by itself. The most important part of actually pursuing him after the one-month period is over, however, is your plan.

If you don't have a well-developed plan that uses a tested strategy to get your ex back, you're shooting in the dark. Face it, we're not all relationship experts, and we can't be expected to know exactly what will work and what won't. I mean, who would have thought that dropping your ex altogether would actually be an effective tool for getting him back?

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