Ring Pillows have a long and illustrious history.
It was the custom in ancient Egypt to present wedding jewels on ornate pillows made especially for the occasion.
And in ancient Rome, it was the custom of a royal page to "bear" and present the rings at important weddings.
At some point in history, these customs merged and we have the Ring Bearer and the Ring Pillow.
Also, the ring bearer role has largely been assigned to a young man between the ages of 6-10 usually to match the flower girl of the same age.
A Wedding Ceremony is a wonderful opportunity to include children.
If you or your fiancee have a nephew, or a young cousin, or a friends' child, or especially a child from a former marriage, this is a lovely and easy way to include them.
The role is important and requires no speaking so can be done by even the shyest of children.
To make this an enjoyable experience for all, here are three tips I have found useful in having children serve in this role.
1.
Attire: Ring bearers usually mirror what the groomsmen are wearing.
So, if the groomsmen are wearing dark suits, the young one would as well.
He can also wear the same cummerbunds that the groom is wearing.
If it is not possible to find a suit that small,choose something similar that has the same formal feel.
2.
Ring Pillow: Most ring pillows have ties on them so that the rings can be tied securely.
If you are still concerned, you can also tack the rings on as well.
The most important thing is that everyone feel comfortable with how the rings are fastened on the pillow.
If the child is very young, have one of the bridal party be in charge of the pillow until it is time for the processional.
3.
Processional and Recessional: The Ring Bearer and Flower Girl should be present at the rehearsal so that they can practice walking in and out to the music.
When it is time for the rings to be presented, the Best Man should practice with the young attendant to see that the rings can be easily removed.
The young one should know where to stand and how to present the pillow and then where to go after he has presented the rings.
Having him practice several times will do a lot for his confidence.
Including children in your wedding adds charm and the feeling that all generations from the very young to the elderly, are represented.