Your early warning system for dishonest lovers Protecting yourself when you enter into a new relationship with someone should be your first and foremost concern.
Millions of women and no doubt a few men too, get beaten by their boyfriends and spouses every year.
Sadly many of the victims end up dead as a result.
By taking steps to find out about someone and at the same time, find out if they are married or not, you can reduce your risk of ending up with someone you would rather have nothing to do with.
With a little planning and common sense you can find out if he is married or has a long term partner.
You can also find out if he or she is a drug addict, an ex-convict or has active arrest warrants.
Above all you can find out if he is lying to you and the best thing about this method is that it can be fun to do.
Find out if he is married by asking him Men love to talk about themselves and women are very often the same once you get them going.
Finding things out about someone at the start of a relationship is one of the nicest things about that time so you should use it to your advantage.
You can have a great time doing it too.
What you will be doing by talking is collecting information.
Anything might be useful from his date of birth to his mothers maiden name.
From his school and college qualifications to his ex girlfriends.
Oh and don't forget to ask him if he's married or not.
Yes it's OK to ask your new lover if he is married or has other partners.
We live in a time when AIDS and other sexually transmitted diseases are of great concern so you should ask this question as soon as possible.
Collect information while you are having a good time If your new lover is being honest with you then you will get your answer quickly.
If on the other hand, you are told that there is definitely no one else then you should continue to collect information from him.
You are looking for things that can be verified like date of birth, where he went to school, where he works etc.
You can slip in you questions while talking on the telephone when it's easy to write down what he tells you.
Most men will open up over dinner and a few drinks if given the smallest encouragement.
Write down the information as soon as you are alone and before you forget it.
Look for the lies Now you can start looking for any lies that you may have been told.
It doesn't much matter what the lies are because if he can lie to you about one thing then he can lie to you about being married right? Call the college where he said he has studied to confirm that he did attend.
Call his employer to verify that he does work there.
You can call the main number and ask to speak to him.
They will tell you if they don't know him.
Do a background check and search marriage records There are all sorts of background checking that you can do by consulting an online public records web site.
You can even check marriage and divorce records but you don't have to stop there.
Use public records web sites to find out if he has a criminal record or arrest records and much more.
How do I find out if someone is married? I do a marriage records search online as soon as I have enough information to allow me to identify the person from the results I get.
Most of the time I don't find any evidence of lies or deceit but I almost always enjoy myself by finding out all kinds of stuff about the person that you might not think to ask.