There are lots of tips and tricks you can learn on how to get women in bed, but without confidence, none of them will work. Confidence is the foundation of your whole game plan. It has to be there solidly in place for everything else to work. The trouble is that confidence is exactly what most of us lack.

It's easy to build up confidence. This is one area of the game that it's easy to work on. It's all about using an easy formula and taking it in steps. And this works not just for picking up women, but for all other areas of life where you're not sure of yourself.

Let's say that you're afraid to approach a girl at first. If this scares you, you're not alone. Lots of guys are the same. The way to overcome it is to just do it. The reason is that, if you have a little bit of success here, you'll build some confidence.

Now, imagine that you're okay with approaching girls, but telling them that you want to take it to another level freaks you out. Give it a try. Even if it goes badly, just by trying it you've built a little bit of confidence. If it fails miserably, turn it into a "learning experience." Now, you can be confident in yourself knowing that you've got a little more knowledge and experience; this will help you next time.

Take it step by step - calling the girl, bringing her home to your place, getting her into the bedroom, moving in for the first kiss, taking off her clothes, getting the condom on, and finally sex. You've gone from approaching a woman to having sex with her, and all it took were a bunch of little steps.

Some of these steps will give you no anxiety at all. Maybe you're already confident about making a date or slipping off her bra. The point is just to know where you feel your biggest risks are, and to work on each of these one at a time.

You don't have to go from the approach to sex all in one night. In fact, this is never the way it works. Take each step at one at a time, and use the confidence you got from the last one to help you push it through the next one.

How to get women in bed is about 90% confidence, and once you can learn that, you've got the rest made. Once you've removed all the sexual anxiety you feel, applying these tips and techniques to your pick up game will be a piece of cake.