It's over between you and your girlfriend, but it doesn't have to be. You can have a second chance to be with her and make your relationship work.

Breaking up causes much pain and hurt, especially if you were a couple for a long time. You know how hard it is to wake up in the morning and spend another day without that person. You can't stop thinking about that person because everywhere you turn there's another reminder of the times you had together.

You obviously want to get your ex back from the bottom of your heart, but if you let your emotions get the better of you, you are only going to worsen the situation and make it harder, if not impossible, to get your ex back. Breaking up is hard to deal with, especially when you feel like the relationship shouldn't have ended.

So what do you do when you want to get back with the one you love but end up making mistake after mistake and only push her further away? Just think about the starting days of your relationship, and by what she was attracted to from you. These things can help you to win her back again, But this time you have to be so very smart in each and every thing you try. Make sure that none of your activities should make her remember the sour things which happened, this will only make the situation worse than it is.

Most girls like guys with a strong and independent attitude whom they can rely on and trust with their problems. So if you want to get back with your girlfriend you have to act in that manner and perspective.

Once you have allowed yourself time to adjust and think, your ex has had the same amount of time to calm down and think about their decision as well. Ideally, you should not have any contact with your ex for at least a month before trying to establish contact with them again.

The first thing to do is to phone her up and have a very brief, casual chat with her. Invite her to meet you somewhere neutral, but try to not make it sound like an important event. You must remember that you are trying to get your ex back in your arms, so try to refrain from emotional manipulation.

When you meet her explain that you have been giving things a lot of thought and that you want to apologize for all the mistakes you have made in the past. Explain that you still feel the same way about her and that you would like to be given another chance.

Breaking up is hard to deal with, especially when you feel that you still want to be with that person, but you just don't know how to get her back. It's a situation that many of us have been in and many more go through everyday. And while relationships can be saved, if you don't have a clear focus on what you want and what to do to get it, then you just end up going around in circles and ruining your chances of restoring your relationship.

When your girlfriend breaks up with you and you want her to take you back, you might feel that if you should call, text, email her to tell her you're sorry, you made a mistake, beg her to forgive you, to take you back. This is not a good idea and in fact does the exact opposite. It just re-enforces her decision in breaking up with you and proves to her that she's better off without you because as the saying goes, no one needs the needy.

Now there are no shortcuts to get your ex back, but what if you had a step by step manual that made things easier for you? What if you had someone or something that told you what to and what not to do to get your ex-girlfriend back? Sound too good to be true?

Well, there are actually several books and articles that do offer the type of advice that you seek. All it takes is a little searching in the right direction to find one. Some of these are also actually quite good, well written, and even have some very good advice for relationships in trouble.