After all, being in a marriage meant never having to actively go out and attract women.
Typically, guys who were good with women before getting married find that their skills with the ladies just "aren't what thy used to be.
" And guys who struggled until they found their (now ex) wives believe they're going to struggle even worse now that they're back on the market.
Add to that the fact that a freshly divorced man tends to be older, fatter, and balder than he was when he first got married, and his insecurities about his looks can actually prevent him from getting success with new women! Luckily, meeting women after a divorce doesn't have to be difficult.
Here are some simple steps you can follow to help you start meeting more women right away...
STEP 1: Figure Out What You Want Most guys don't know how to get back into the dating game because they have no idea what they actually want! So before you even start thinking about meeting girls, figure out what your goals are.
Are you looking to get back into a serious relationship? Or do you just want something casual and fun? Do you want to get married again? Or do you want to enjoy being single for a while? What about the type of woman you want? Would you be willing to date a single mom? Do you want to go after a younger woman? An older woman? Think about what you want to have, and once you figure out what you're looking for, you'll find that you'll be able to achieve it easier than if you had no idea what it was you wanted.
STEP 2: Set Aside Time To Meet New Women The life of a freshly divorced man can be difficult and hectic.
Maybe you had to move to a new place? Maybe you have to work harder to pay for alimony.
Maybe you have kids and you have to spend time with them.
The list of things you have to deal with now that your single can be long and overwhelming.
But if you want to meet a new woman, you must set aside time to focus on your dating life! Give yourself a little bit of time every day to focus your energy and attention on meeting girls, and then set aside at least 1 or 2 days for a "date night," or a night where you can actually go out with a woman you've met.
If you don't make time for bringing women into your life, guess what? IT WON'T HAPPEN! So schedule accordingly.
STEP 3: Use Online Dating Services If you're nervous about getting back into the field, or you just want a fast way to start meeting women on your busy schedule, the internet is a great place to start.
Women online are actively looking for a great guy to date, so you know the girls you contact on these sites would be in the market.
But more than that, it's also extremely easy to meet lots of women! Just send them an email and see if they respond.
It's as simple as that.
STEP 4: Use Your Friends And Family Don't forget about the power of networking when it comes to meeting new women.
Ask your friends and family members to introduce you to a woman they think would be a good match for you.
Some guys don't like to go this route, because they don't want to seem like they need help.
But meeting a woman through friends and family is actually much easier than meeting a woman on your own, because you have a system in place to "build you up" before the girl ever meets you.
Having a female friend or your mother play matchmaker can be really beneficial.
Just make sure you're clear with the people helping you out what you are looking for in a woman.
STEP 5: Be Social When you're married, most of your social life revolves around your wife and family.
However, after a divorce, you have to get out of the house and actively be social with other people.
Go to your kid's soccer games or school events, and mingle with other single parents.
Go to happy hour with your co-workers after you get off the job.
Invite people to go to sporting events and movies with you.
Do whatever you can think of to get out of the house and mingle with other people.
This is how you meet new women, or people who can introduce you to new women.
Here are some extra tips to help you out with your quest to meet a new girl to have in your life...
- Never talk bad about your ex-wife when you meet a new woman.
This can come off as you being bitter with women, and could reflect badly on you.
If the subject of your ex comes up, just say "There was a time when she was the light of my life, but now I'm moving on.
" It's better to be classy than bitter. - Brush up on your conversation skills.
Don't be afraid to chat up a woman innocently.
Ask questions, be interested in her.
You don't have to go for the date right away. - Don't worry about your age, weight, or bald spot.
If you let these things bother you, they'll lower your confidence and keep you from success with a girl.
Better to focus on the reasons WHY a woman would be attracted to you than reasons why she WOULDN'T. - Text messaging can be great for dating.
Be sure to use texting to keep in touch with all the new women you meet.
If you aren't used to texting, learn to love it! It will really help you when setting up a date. - Go after what you want.
Don't settle for a woman you don't really like just because she's convenient.
Date as many women as it takes to find one that actually makes you happy.
If you're not having fun, it'll be hard to meet the right woman for you.