The title to this article is actually a trick question, because it is one that I, as a Minnesota divorce attorney cannot answer for you. Having grown up in a Catholic family, my father stills comments to me (I believe in a facetious manner) about my "chosen profession" as a Minnesota divorce attorney and how divorce is more than frowned upon in such faith. Then of course the conversation inevitably leads to how I must cause acrimony in the relationships of married couples for job security (which is, of course facetious).

The actual decision to get a divorce from a spouse is a decision that should be made prior to contacting me as a Minnesota divorce attorney. Almost all of my clients who contact me regarding a divorce had made the decision to get a divorce months, if not years prior to actually mustering the courage to call a Minnesota divorce attorney. However, I have had a few clients during their initial divorce consultation, "tear up" when they tell me that they want to divorce their spouse. With these few clients, I could tell in their eyes that they were not ready for the divorce, for whatever their reasons may have been - still hoping that he or she could mend the differences with the spouse, going to first try marriage counseling, the minor children will be too adversely impacted, the financial strain will be too great, he or she does not know a life other than the life with that spouse, etc. Many of these are very legitimate reasons for delaying divorce, or to not get a divorce in Minnesota altogether.

The question of whether parents should stay together in an unhappy marriage in Minnesota for the sake of the minor children has been, and continues to be a topic of much debate. If the parents argue daily in the presence of the children and expose the children to a hostile living environment, then more harm may result to the children than good by remaining together. This could be the case on both an immediate level - by subjecting the children to a tumultuous environment, and on a long-term level - by teaching the children negative "life lessons" that will resonate with them as adults. However, if the parents do not argue, but have simply fallen out of love and are living two separate lives under the same roof while both looking out for what is best for the children - then is there harm to the children by staying married. In this situation, the parents must make an independent decision about their own happiness.

Whether someone should or should not get a divorce is a huge, and life changing decision to make. It is a decision that should not be made hastily and should be a decision made by that person alone - without the influence of peers, friends and other family. Friends and family can often times provide good objective insight into the relationship "from the outside looking in." However, every relationship is different and each person "should" know what is best for that person.

If you have not made the decision to actually get a divorce in Minnesota, but you would like to know what your legal rights would otherwise be in the case of a Minnesota divorce (especially if you believe your spouse is contemplating a divorce), please contact me, a Minnesota divorce attorney, for a free divorce consultation. By calling and speaking with me, you, by no means, have to actually follow through with the divorce; you would simply be learning your legal rights that would potentially result from the divorce proceedings in Minnesota.

By: Adam Blahnik, attorney and owner of Blahnik Law Office, PLLC, 16180 Hastings Avenue, Suite 201, Prior Lake, Minnesota 55372. (952) 479-0449, adam@blahniklawoffice.com, www.blahniklawoffice.com