A wedding is the day of the bride and the groom.
But most often it's looked upon as the day of the bride! And this has its reasons.
It is the bride who goes through a bigger transformation and an emotional transition.
She loses one identity to gain another.
Or maybe she imbibes two identities in one.
The entire journey from a Miss to a Mrs in a matter of two words - 'I do'.
Whatever the bride does and says is closely observed and discussed too.
In fact, everything about her attracts attention: her bridal gown - its make, model, design...
; her makeup - its brand, style, colour...
; her hairstyle - the quality of her hair, its length, its quality...
her bouquet - the flowers in it, their arrangement...
the list can run through pages! When everything becomes the object of awe, how can the brides speech be spared? Now a days, most brides speech to express their feeling rather than rely on the groom to do so.
And every guest eagerly waits to listen to the words coming from the trousseau! Her words are a mix of smile and tears combined with aspirations and dreams.
The bride is the 'princess' of the day, she is the 'ideal girl' who deserves everything best in her life.
And when she stands up to speak, her words are expected to be the mellowest and the sweetest.
She speaks as a darling daughter, a dear friend, a compatible wife, a responsible daughter-in-law and of course, a hospitable hostess (if the bride and the groom are the hosts).
The bride should welcome the guests and thank them for their time, presence, wishes and presents.
She should give special attention to the maid of honour and express her gratitude and feelings towards her.
She should also thank all others who have been helpful in planning the wedding and making the necessary arrangements.
This is the time for the bride to tell her parents how important they are to her.
On this day, when she gets a new set of parents it is all the more relevant to express her thoughts and feelings about parents.
She should also talk about the parents of the groom and show readiness to be an integral part of their family and life.
While talking about the groom, she should make sure that she makes him feel her hero.
He is the man in and of her life now.
What can be more important than him! She should carefully put forth her thoughts and beliefs about the institution of marriage.
She should express full confidence in her own bright future with the groom as husband and wife.
She should propose a toast to their happy and fulfilling married life before she ends the speech.
Along with what the bride says, how she says it is also important.
She should present herself as a sensible, responsible and dignified lady who is now a wife.
Humour is not out of place, but nobody would like to see a bride who is loud and gaudy with her expression and farcical in her humour.
Maintain dignity, delicacy and class.
Your words should sound firm and sincere.
They should depict your deepest feelings and adorn them as your attire adorns you.
Be the bride you always wanted to be and have a blast of a wedding and a bigger blast of a married life.