- 1). Recognize the first time someone behaves in an overbearing way, but don't say anything. If you immediately react, you risk coming across as intolerant and impatient. After all, we all act overbearing sometimes. Overbearing people are this way most of the time.
- 2). Note the second time overbearing behavior occurs. This may mean the behavior is part of a personality problem. Still, keep the peace by making this observation to yourself. It can be difficult not to confront the overbearing person at this point, but you might be glad you kept the peace if the behavior doesn't continue.
- 3). Say something the third time a friend or coworker behaves in an overbearing way. By this point, you have recognized the behavior and been patient about letting it go twice. Since it has happened a third time, it is likely to be a pattern and you should be firm in addressing it.
- 1). Wait until you are alone with the overbearing person. This will help keep the conversation private and peaceful. Public confrontations tend to drag in unsolicited advice from whomever you are with and are impolite to those who are not involved in your interpersonal problems.
- 2). Speak directly and firmly during the confrontation. You don't need to be rude or cruel, but don't downplay the problem. Instead, describe your observations and explain how you've been hurt by overbearing behavior. Avoid absolute terms like "always" and "never" in favor of describing how the behavior makes you feel.
- 3). Suggest a resolution during your confrontation. This will help your criticism come across as constructive rather than nasty. In addition, most people are somewhat stunned by confrontations, so suggesting a solution gives the confronted person a chance to reflect.
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