One sign that youre still in love with ex lover is your longing for his/her presence despite your anguish. Though your life is in a miserable state because he/she dated someone else, fell out of love or prioritized his/her career, letting go of mementos seems impossible. The feeling is still so alive that if a genie showed up, you would request only one thing: you want your beloved back in your arms again. But since genies exist only in fairy tales, read these tips to know how to pull him/her back to you.

Breathe again.

When youre in the state of filling the void your ex left when he/she walked out of your door, you cant spell sanity correctly. With spontaneity as your backup, you act as if carefulness is an enemy and the result hurts you more because you end up doing things you shouldnt be. At this time, its important for you to regain your balance and avoid being subjective. Inhale, exhale and know where you stand before you act.

Value yourself.

Be calm and dont show other people how desperate you are. Youre only selling yourself so cheaply he/she would reckon no one would buy you in the market. If you dont stop chasing, youll get avoidance. If you continue stalking, youll get into more troubles. Spare yourself some pride by not offering everything to him/her. Be positive. Let the positive emotions rule you.

Welcome changes.

Try to develop a new hobby that wasnt part of your routine with your ex. Dip in the swimming pool more often if going to the beach was your least priority. If you used to be the indoor type, go trekking with a mountaineering group. Its your diversion that will awaken his/her eavesdropping tendencies. Your cool aura will make him/her wonder what changes have occurred since you parted ways.

Stay in touch.

If youre still in love with ex partner, closing the communication lines is a bad idea. Gather all your nerves to send him/her an email but as a friend. Give important details about whats happening in your life. Continue to meet your common friends. They will update you with the things he/she cant tell you squarely. This way, youll know where to stand and how to get him/her back.

Observe gestures.

If your ex still cares for you, youll notice the signs. The typical gestures would include replying to your messages, showing up at gatherings you attend and asking you out with other friends. Feel his/her moves. Since youve been with him/her for sometime, youd know better if getting a second chance is possible. Try to be unbiased with your observation. Otherwise, you end up fooling yourself.

Talk sincerely.

At the right time, initiate a serious conversation. Openly discuss what your problem was, how you hurt each other and which direction youll be taking. If your ex is enthusiastic about reminiscing your unforgettable moments, go on. Your recollection will support a few lines from the song, The Call by Regina Spektor. The final lines state, Let your memories grow stronger and stronger til they're before your eyes. You'll come back when they call you. No need to say goodbye.

If youre in the middle of a still-in-love-with-ex issue, you exert much effort to put things back on the same road. However, remember that driving in full speed will only put you to danger. Youll do better if you put on the seatbelt, follow the traffic lights, turn at the right corner and pull the brakes.