Do you find yourself presently surviving a breakup? It probably seems like there is no hope, but that's the wrong attitude to foster if you are going to actually get through this tough time.

In the first place, the relationship may not be completely ended. They may be a chance you can save your relationship. That, alone, should give you some hope that surviving a breakup will not be impossible. If your relationship hit a snag, it's possible, after a cooling-off period, to get together with the ex and talk things over, in an effort to work things out. That would be ideal.

But, you know you situation best. It may well and truly be finished and it's time for both of you to be moving on. Read that again, we said, moving on. Not stagnating in misery and self-pity, feeling pessimistic that you'll be surviving a breakup.

When you've spent time as a couple, going everywhere together and being known as a couple to your friends, it's rather difficult to keep your social life going. You may find that some of your friends are no longer on speaking terms with you, having sided with your ex. Or perhaps they feel uneasy being with you for their own reasons, now that you're single again. Whatever the reason, now is not the time to find yourself alone. Go out, make new friends, if you must, but get yourself active. Find other things, and people, to focus on.

Being able to talk to someone about the feelings you have will be quite beneficial. When we keep feelings bottled up inside, they tend to fester and become bigger than they really are. You'll be amazed at how much less hurtful and debilitating the situation will seem once you find someone to whom to talk. A sympathetic ear might be found in friends or family members, but even the local church minister has training in counseling. Find someone who will listen, not try to fix anything, but is willing to just let you vent.

Now, it may happen that, after hearing you complain and whine over and over that even the most even-handed and gentle friend or family member will get tired of you and tell you to move on already. Seeking the advice of a professional counselor, whether the local minister or a licensed family therapist would be an advantage at this point. You can avoid burdening your friends and family and not strain your relationships with them, as well, in the process.

Therapists, needless to say, know what you are going through and can help you sort your feelings, recognize where you are stuck and advise you how to move forward with your life. For surviving a breakup, professional counselors are your best bet.

Surviving a breakup also means removing anything from your presence that may remind you of your ex. You may also need to stop listening to the radio for awhile as your heart mends. If you cannot give things back to your ex, box them up and store them so you won't be seeing them constantly. Or, if you can safely part with items that have some value to them, consider donating them to charity. By not having their things around to remind you of better times, you'll be able to move forward with your life without the hiccups such interruptions would cause.

Start doing all the things you didn't get to do when you were part of a couple. Perhaps there was an activity you wanted to try and couldn't because your partner was not interested. Maybe it's time to take up self-improvement course or a new hobby. You certainly need to find a new circle of friends and start over. That's the best and easiest route to surviving a breakup.

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