What's in your head today? Is it the same as yesterday? Do you dread tomorrow because you know that it will be the same thing over and over.
Relentless, taunting images.
If your husband has cheated on you, most likely you are experiencing the non-stop flood of images of your husband and the other woman together.
You can't get them out of your mind and you feel like you're going to go crazy if they don't stop.
Filling in the Blanks Whether or not you were given any specific details of your husband's affair, your mind is trying to fill in the blanks.
Rationally, you know these "details" have no real basis in fact.
Still, this fantasy script plays out over and over in your head, almost as if you were watching actual video of these events.
The scenes play something like this: 1.
You see them in each other's arms.
2.
She has the perfect body, and he's loving it.
3.
The two of them enjoying a quiet romantic meal, then slinking off to have passionate sex, silk sheets and all.
Once they start playing in your head, it's very hard to get them to stop.
You may be tempted to study them in your mind, as if to learn the facts about the affair.
Maybe you're thinking you'll discover the reason he cheated in the first place.
Yet, you wonder why you can't control these tortuous images.
Why do they haunt you day and night, draining your energy and stealing your self-esteem.
Haunting Images: Make a Few Changes The mind is a very powerful tool.
Everything around you first started as a simple idea in someone's head.
Not only can the mind create these images, it can manipulate them as well.
It's time you use your powerful mind and protect your self-esteem.
You decide what images get to come into your mind.
What scripts play out in your head.
Remember, these images are not reality, so don't give them any power to effect you.
You are in control.
You have the power to change and alter the images that dance in your head taunting you.
Following are three key steps you can take right now to help you manipulate the images that are causing you such heart-ache.
Step 1: Choose the Timing of the Images Up until now you have been bombarded wherever and whenever the images happen to occur.
That simple fact goes a long way in making you feel powerless against them.
What you want to do is plan to "view" these images when and where you choose.
Tell yourself that you will only allow them to play for a certain amount of time.
You decide.
You choose.
It's your power take it back.
Step 2: Choose Your Surroundings During this "private screening" you do not want to be disturbed, so set aside a time that you know will contain few interruptions.
Choose your space - somewhere that you feel comfortable and can be alone.
Here you can let the images start playing in your head.
Step 3: Change the Taunting Script Remember, these images are ones that you created, so you can take full license with them and edit, alter and manipulate them all you like.
Change what the key players look like, change their body shapes, their mannerisms, their locations.
The once taunting and relentless images will become powerless as you manipulate them.
You are harnessing the power of your own mind that created these images in the first place.
As you change them and alter them you will see that they begin to lose their power to torment you.
It can take some time and practice to shake the grip of these relentless images.
Just keep changing the script until you no longer feel the need to have a "private screening" session.
By telling yourself that you will only allow these images at the designated time and place, and then manipulating them, you are taking control of these taunting images and taking away their power to hurt you any longer.