Transforming Intense Feelings Before Communicating Them! One of the most difficult communication skills is expressing ourselves honestly  and with compassion, especially if upset .
Here is a tip to make that skill easier.
Yes, accept the moment for what it is.
Before expressing to another person, accept the situation or the emotions that are present .
  This will help calm any nervousness, fear, anger ...
before communicating with another.
If you try to communicate with another when you are upset,  nobody will be satisfied.
  Take a few extra minutes to set your intention by using this exercise.
  Otherwise it can take hours or weeks to repair the damage of expressing yourself when you are upset.
  Just take a few minutes to extinguish the negative feelings.
Example: Someone has not emailed me back the information I requested.
It has been a week.
My thinking is full of judgments.
I want to call them and express what is going on with me, the disappointment, the consideration for my time, the ease of having this information.
Using this tip, I accept what is  I accept what is, The information isn't here, yes, I accept that I am upset, I acknowledge this feeling and say I accept  it, (4 times)  Already I am calming and become more present.
  I am now ready to take action (compassionately) Try this tip in this way?  Transform your emotions  Take some of your emotions and focus on  them, and say  to yourself   " I accept  this emotion  __________  as being present now.
"  Process one feeling at a time and say it 3 - 5 times slowly.
 Does the intensity diminish?