You've just lost your guy and you want to know how to win him back.  This can be a difficult task if you don't know how you lost him in the first place, so getting this information will be vital to the process of winning him back.

The process on how to win him back can be filled with pitfalls.  If you act needy or desperate you will hurt your chances of winning him back.  One thing for sure is you need a plan before you proceed so that you don't make the mistakes most women make in the first few days after a break up with the person they love.  I will tell you at the end of this article about a proven plan that have been used by thousands of couples to get back together into happier and stronger relationship than before.

First, forgive or ask for forgiveness.  Don't beg, don't give excuses, don't act innocent or ignorant of the situation.  Just a simple "forgive me" will suffice.  Sometimes both parties in a break up have said or done something that has put an already strained relationship over the edge.  Next say something nice or don't say it at all is some very good advice.  Find nice things to say about him regardless of whether he hears it or not.  Odds are that it will get back to him through a mutual acquaintance.

An act of kindness can also be how to win him back.  Sometimes a man can be taken for granted.  Especially during dating when he's working on the pursuit of you, cool responses can cost you.  Stalking him to perform an act of kindness is not recommended, but a kind response to a phone call from him because he left something behind and wants it back can get him to thinking, especially if the initial break up conversation was heated.

Not much else can take place until some sort of communication can be reestablished.  

An act of kindness and even an apology are hard to do if you can't get the communication flowing again.  The best thing you can do to win him back is to call and ask for a meeting with him.  No crying, no begging and no talking beyond the initial hello.  Let him talk.  

Odds are that somewhere along the line this guy's ego has been undermined.  Not pride, but ego, that part of a man that only a woman that he loves can wound.  If he says no to the meeting, then a simple and kind response to that answer may be just enough to get him to call you back and change his mind.  

If that happens, again, become the most unselfish person you possibly can.  Let the guy talk if he will and listen intently to him.  Address any issues one by one and without defense or arguing your side, the opportunity will come another time to share your point of view.  Just bear in mind that communication is the key to all human relationship and the better the communication, the better the relationship.

If you still love your man and want to get back into a more loving relationship the most important things you can do are open up the communications and get a proven plan on how to win him back.