Secret affairs seem like a great idea, don’t they? Just having a secret is provocative, but when there’s romance and sex involved that makes the secret even juicier.

Secret affairs aren’t uncommon. However, they don’t always work. In fact, being in a secret relationship can really strain your current relationship. The odds of this type of affair only lasting a short time are very high.

You’d be surprised just how difficult it can be to go a long time without talking about the relationship. If it weren’t secret, you would probably be talking about your lover throughout the day in normal conversation. Even just mentioning something you saw together or talked about would be a natural thing to do.

However, in secret relationships, you have to refrain from doing that. You might have it on the tip of your tongue to talk about your partner and have to catch yourself all the time. Having to restrain yourself many times throughout the day can be quite a source of stress.

And if your partner is having to do the same thing as well, this will add up to a huge amount of stress.

There’s also the worry about being seen together. People in hush-hush relationships don’t have the luxury of going out go a great restaurant for dinner. They can’t go see the latest movie together, or walk down the road holding hands.

There are exceptions to this. If the person you’re now seeing is someone who you were originally friends with anyway, then that’s okay, you can be seen together because people just assume you are friends. But you’ll have to give only appearance of friendship around others.

Some relationships are kept secret for that very reason. Two friends have become more than just friends, and they don’t want to push their luck. Or they decide that their social group might not understand. Perhaps they feel that keeping it a secret is the best thing to do in case things don’t work out. Then the friends would never need to be told.

Many coworkers who start dating keep the secret for the same reason. Things would just be easier at work if other people didn’t know, both while it’s happening and in case it ends. And with work situations, such dating might be discouraged, making it necessary to keep it a secret.

But by keeping it a secret for those reasons, it’s as if you’re saying that it’s probably not going to work out, or that you have serious doubts about it. How healthy does it seem to be in a relationship that you must believe won’t last, so much so that you’re keeping it a secret.

While the relationship might be thrilling at first and seem like an adventure, the best way to have secret relationships is with the understanding that they’ll only be secret for a short time. Then you must decide if the relationship is going to last.

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