Parenthood is an extraordinary period which makes you unfold those unread pages about yourself. In today's scenario where both the parents are out to earn bread for the better living, the actual nectar of being a parent is missed by them. However that's how they have chosen their lifestyle to be. I am definitely not saying that the path chosen by them is incorrect. In fact this is the demand of the present world. A child is a child to all kind of parents and deserves that quality time and attention which is needed to nurture her. Likewise the parents too wish to devote their time to their child. But the question is how to stabilize? The answer lies with us, we just need to clean our virtual spectacles to have a spotless vision towards it.
Babies do not come in this world on a planned schedule, they come when they are destined to arrive. Time devotion plays a vital role in a child's life. As the time passes the child gets acquainted to the world, but to give that awareness a perfect direction requires your responsiveness. Listening to all those small and big broken sentences and applauding makes your child more confident and secure with you. Sparing few moments in the morning before leaving for work and after coming back keeps the child smiling and feel that €you are there'. Telling bedtime stories, cuddly moments, knowing about how was the day in school or back home makes her feel she's being cared. What she needs from you is only one thing, your attention. A parent needs to play the same role which he wants his child to play as this is considered as the best method of teaching. A child grasps his mother tongue faster than anything else because it is the language which he hears almost every time and from everyone around her. Similarly she inculcates the actions and behaviours which are being played in front of her throughout the day. We should not change our reaction to the child's mistake in front of guests. At the time of a mischievous activity there should be no discrimination in a guest's child and your own child. This leaves adverse effect on child's brain. A child has blind faith on her parents and hence we should always be truthful and honest with her.
Adolescence is a time of speedy change both for a young person and a parent. A child here is now growing into a unique individual where she is capable of taking her own decisions. As a parent we should support and encourage the adolescent. Decision making, sharing views, taking interest in their music and TV channels can strengthen the bond. Forgiving mistakes and giving privacy to them will bring you both closer. The reason of saying €No' should always be mentioned and establishment of some general house rules could be done together. Listening more and talking less will act as the best policy with the teenager. Conflicts are inevitable in any relationship, however if it's ongoing then you need to worry. We need to find out the reason of clash and try to convert the negatives into positives. Avoid harsh criticism instead offer constructive way out.
It feels fantastic to be on the other side, where my parents used to be years ago. In fact now I get the answers to the questions for which I used to wonder why? As a teenager I only had one thing in my mind and that was €ME€. However today I feel I am transformed as a human being.